My Question of the Day: Blended families have become more and more common over the years. One of the biggest questions children have is what to call their new stepparent. Should you require your child(ren) to call his/her/their new stepparent “mom” or “dad”?

(this question was submitted by @rahsheen; thanks!)

My 2 Cents: I’ve often thought about this as a single person with no child(ren) who might marry a man who has a child/children. I would not want my spouse to force his child(ren) to call me mom, but I don’t want to be called a stepmom when he/she/they is/are speaking of me. I hope that my husband’s child(ren) love and respect me enough to refer to me as his/her/their godmother, as I would definitely make every effort to treat him/her/them like my own flesh and blood, and if something (God forbid) unfortunate happened to his/her/their biological mother, my spouse’s child(ren) would be welcomed into our home without hesitation or question.

As for what he/she/they would address me as when speaking to me, I would want him/her/them to call me by an appropriate name with which he/she/they are comfortable.

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Take a few moments to check out the tweets from Twitter on this subject:

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LilMrsPerfect2u should b left up 2 the child, however Mr or Ms. Shld b used @ all times. Chldrn shldnt b allwd 2 call adults by their 1st names.

JoshDamage I’d sit my spouse and child down and we wud figure out what we were gonna use. Mommy I think wud be reserved for the real mom

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My Question of the Day: You marry someone with children, but you have no children of your own. Prior to the marriage, your spouse agrees to have at least one more child so that you all can share a child together. Several months after you say, “I do,” your spouse decides that she/he doesn’t want to have another child after all. What do you do?

My 2 Cents: Being in this situation would be devastating for me, and I would feel totally betrayed and wounded. It may not lead to divorce, but I’d seriously be thinking about it.

It would take every bit of my faith to forgive my spouse for changing his mind, especially if the deciding factor for me accepting his proposal was that he agreed to father one more child with me.

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Take a few moments to check out the tweets from Twitter on this subject:

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Fem_Pru My answer is… Have a baby by someone else. (but talk about it with ur spouse first)

John_Hinds Real simple Fayrda. Don’t get married to someone who already has children LOL!!

Mo_Rease I’d be heartbroken.

acmeek I guess I need to know if an event changed his mind or is deception playing a role here. I still would feel cheated.

treschic67 I love Children & couldn’t imagine spending the rest of my life w/out 1 of my own. I wouldn’t be happy. We’d probably divorce.

JoshDamage DIVORCE HER IMMEDIATELY FOR BEING A LIAR. As well as selfish and inconsiderate.

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