My Question of the Day for 18 February 2010 – UPDATED
My Question of the Day: You’ve been seeing someone for about three weeks. Everything is going extremely well; actually much better than you originally thought it would. You find yourself thinking of him/her all the time and wanting to spend all your free time with this person.
At the beginning of week four, he/she confesses that he/she is in love with you and would like you to start thinking about marriage.
What do you do?
My 2 Cents: After my initial shock, and scooping my chin up off the floor, I’d suggest we talk about how he got from things going extremely well to being in love.
If I felt like his explanation had any merit, and my gut isn’t screaming, “RUN!,” I’d request that we keep things going as they are and revisit the issue in a couple of months.
If, in that time his feelings haven’t changed, and my feelings have grown, I’d insist that we begin some sort of couples counseling. If he agrees, then we take it from there.
I don’t believe there has to be extensive amounts of time for people to know what they feel is real, but I do believe it takes time to work through what you feel and understand why you feel what you feel and to know if that can be the foundation of a lifelong covenant.
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Take a few moments to check out the tweets from Twitter on this subject:
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ClassyDreamer if I’m seriously feeling him and our situations I’d start working towards engagement and setting ourselves up to transition
chela816 I know it *could* work, but I need much more time to get to know a person, find hidden surprises…
JoshDamage I wud be honest…I tell that person a few weeks is too soon to be thinking marriage
sexiibutfun I relax and advise him to do the same. Enjoy the space we are in and lets see where it elevates to……..
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