My Question of the Day: According to U.S. Census Bureau, the world’s population stands at about 6,965,802,560 people and counting. With that in mind, and thinking about love and relationships, do you think it’s possible to have more than one soul mate?

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My Question of the Day: Love and affection from our parents (or guardians) is something that helps us know we are valued and have his/her/their backing. With that in mind, do you think it’s appropriate for a parent or guardian to kiss his/her/their child(ren) on the lips?

My 2 Cents: This question was “ripped from the headlines,” so to speak.

Several people wrote blog posts about A Mother’s Day Kiss; a picture that shows Kim Porter kissing her son, Quincy, on the lips. Actually, the kiss was initiated by Quincy to his mother to show his love and appreciation for her motherly support and influence on his life.

My parents have always kissed us only on our cheeks and foreheads, but that’s my family dynamic. I’ve had friends and even relatives whose parents show them affection by kissing on the lips, and I’ve never had any issues with that. A one-second peck on the lips is nothing to get all worked up over.

It’s easy to look at the picture of Quincy kissing his mother and try to read something into it, because it’s a still photograph that prolongs the effect of the act. The image makes the kiss seem much longer than it probably was. I wasn’t there, so I can’t actually say that, for sure.

I have a “live and let live” policy in all things, so I have to say to each family their own. As long as children aren’t being abused (sexually/emotionally/spiritually) and/or neglected, I’m not going to declare that any maternal/paternal forms of affection and love should be off limits.

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My Question of the Day: Which emotion do you think is stronger: love or hate?

My 2 Cents Love is stronger than hate. The movements of Ghandi and Martin Luther King, Jr. showed and Marvin Gaye sanged that love will conquer hate. Even in failed relationships, where we hate what someone has done to us, and we even say we hate him/her, in many cases there is still love under the surface.

I would go further to say that I disagree that love and hate are equal in strength as emotions. What I would say is that the obsession with love or the obsession with hate can be stronger than either emotion by itself.

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acmeek Love because it’s harder to do consistently but once you get it, the results are more effective.

blacknthick I choose hate

Teaguem2005 Love is stronger than hate 4 me. I don’t hate anybody but I love many.

OfeliaNJ LOVE. If you think about it, stalking & addictions = twisted-up love. People don’t go to such extremes for hate

JoshDamage I would say love. Who has the energy too hate all the time

PROTECTED TWEETER I’d say they R about the same. Though hate often over shadows love because its easier 2 exude & convey.

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My Question of the Day: You’ve been seeing someone for about three weeks. Everything is going extremely well; actually much better than you originally thought it would. You find yourself thinking of him/her all the time and wanting to spend all your free time with this person.

At the beginning of week four, he/she confesses that he/she is in love with you and would like you to start thinking about marriage.

What do you do?

My 2 Cents: After my initial shock, and scooping my chin up off the floor, I’d suggest we talk about how he got from things going extremely well to being in love.

If I felt like his explanation had any merit, and my gut isn’t screaming, “RUN!,” I’d request that we keep things going as they are and revisit the issue in a couple of months.

If, in that time his feelings haven’t changed, and my feelings have grown, I’d insist that we begin some sort of couples counseling. If he agrees, then we take it from there.

I don’t believe there has to be extensive amounts of time for people to know what they feel is real, but I do believe it takes time to work through what you feel and understand why you feel what you feel and to know if that can be the foundation of a lifelong covenant.

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ClassyDreamer  if I’m seriously feeling him and our situations I’d start working towards engagement and setting ourselves up to transition

chela816 I know it *could* work, but I need much more time to get to know a person, find hidden surprises…

JoshDamage  I wud be honest…I tell that person a few weeks is too soon to be thinking marriage

sexiibutfun  I relax and advise him to do the same. Enjoy the space we are in and lets see where it elevates to……..

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The Question: One of your coworkers wants to introduce you to one of his/her relatives. S/he thinks you all would make a good match. What do you do?

My 2 Cents: This actually happened to me when I was a schoolteacher. The English teacher wanted me to meet her son, and one the of deans wanted me to meet his brother. I was like, “Wow. I can’t believe these folks think enough of me to want me in their family.” It was a head trip, for real.

I never interacted with the dean’s brother, but I did talk on the phone frequently with the English teacher’s son, and he was a really good guy. He was just in another state. Not cool. Plus, we were more comfortable just chatting on a friendly level than anything else, so we kept it there. When I joined the Army, we lost touch.

I’m not absolutely opposed to being introduced to a coworker’s relative, but it’s not the most ideal situation. I wouldn’t flat-out refuse, but I’d be very cautious how I approached the relationship.

By the by, a couple of years ago, my Daddy ran into the guy who used to be the dean at my school, and my Daddy called me so I could speak with the guy. When he got on the phone, he said, “You should have married my brother. He ended up marrying a woman who already has five kids.” I guess to him, that was not a good thing. Haha.

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Mo_Rease I would kindly tell them thanks but no thanks.

atane It depends on what they look like. lol

md20737 I pass on the invite.

BLKMGK I’ve done that before and it didn’t work out. I’d politely decline the offer.

LadyJay91 oh that is a BIG no-no never ever ever hook up with a relative of someone U work with. That’s like dating someone at urchurch

JoshDamage go on a date, cudnt hurt

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