My Question of the Day: Anthony’s father (may he rest in peace) was his hero, but “poppa was a rolling stone,” and had several other children, some of whom Anthony has met and some whom Anthony hasn’t met. Just recently, within the last year or so, Anthony was contacted by a man, Felix, claiming to be one of Anthony’s father’s sons. DNA tests confirmed that Felix and Anthony are indeed brothers through their paternal line.

Anthony and Felix have kept up with each other through Facebook, texting and phone calls since they found out they are brothers, and Anthony mentions to Felix that he (Anthony) is getting married in about six months. Felix congratulates Anthony, Anthony thanks his brother and invites him to the wedding.

About a week before the wedding is to take place, Felix calls Anthony and lets Anthony know that financial hardship will most likely keep him from coming to the wedding. Anthony expresses his disappointment and tells his brother that he was looking forward to finally meeting him face-to-face. Felix then asks Anthony if he can stay with Anthony, which would allow Felix to be able to afford to come to the wedding.

Anthony tells Felix that he needs to discuss it with his fiance, because she and their children have already moved into the home they will share after the wedding. It’s true that Anthony’s fiance and their children live together in the home that they will live in once the wedding is over, but the reality is that Anthony isn’t sure he wants someone staying in his home, with his family, whom he’s never met, brother or not.

What do you think Anthony should do?

My 2 Cents: I could to afford to pay for my brother to stay in a hotel, I’d offer him that option, but he would not be allowed to stay in my home with my family. DNA or no, the brother I’ve never met could not stay in the house with my children and future spouse. It’s a safety issue, point blank and period.

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