My Question of the Day for 28 June 2010 – UPDATED
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My Question of the Day: A very attractive, single man goes into a bar alone to have a couple of drinks. While he’s there, he’s approached by a beautiful young lady, and they strike up a conversation. To the man, the lady looks too young to be in the bar, so he makes it a point to ask her age. She tells him she’s 22, and she even pulls out a driver’s license that shows the same information along with a photo that looks exactly like her.
Still a little skeptical, the man begins asking the young lady questions that he’s sure someone under 18 wouldn’t know. The young lady is on point and responds to all his questions correctly without missing a beat. Even with this, something in the back of his mind and the pit of his stomach is telling him the young lady isn’t as old as she claims. He, however, doesn’t see the harm in keeping company with her while he’s in the bar enjoying his drinks.
He notes that she is only drinking club soda and asks her why. She tells him that she drove to the bar and doesn’t want to take the chance of being pulled over for drinking and driving. He thinks to himself that the young lady is at least responsible.
After his second and last drink the man tells the young lady it’s time for him to get home, and the two of them leave the bar together. He walks the young lady to her car, and she tells him she enjoyed his company and asks him if she can follow him home for a cup of coffee.
Although his gut is telling him she may be underage, his mind is rationalizing that he’s being over cautious. What should he do?
My 2 Cents: Dude needs to follow his gut, period.
If something is telling him the young lady’s underage, then it’s better to err on the side of caution than to find out he was right at his arraignment for statutory rape.
If he’s really that interested in her, he should get her contact information and take the time to get to know her and about her. At some point it will become clear whether she’s been bluffing very well or if she’s telling the truth.
A rush to judgment either way isn’t good. He should take his time, if he’s really interested in her.
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Follow your instincts…don’t do it!
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LikeDislikeIf his gut is saying no then he should just avoid a potentially illegal situation lol – He should just get her number at the most but if he’s feeling this unsure what’s the point of risking it.
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LikeDislikeMy rule is to never fight myself. I will allow some questioning but never a fight between me and my instincts. I would say nice meeting you holla back.
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LikeDislikeIf his gut is telling him to run, then he should RUN!!! Our gut reaction to any person or situation is on point most of the time.
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LikeDislikeI would get the digits and holla at her later. These young girls are good at what they do and the courts will disregard whatever evidence dude comes with later. Better safe than sorry.
Better yet, find her on Facebook and see how old her friends are.
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LikeDislikeYou didn’t say how old he was.
If his gut his telling him “She’s underage” but all her evidence and testimony refutes that, and the bartender supports her claims by permitting her to be inside, then what his gut is probably trying to articulate is “She’s too young for you, according to your own standards.”
Which he should tell her, while expressing his sincere regrets. She doesn’t appear to think he’s too old for her (and seems to be keeping her head clearer than he is), but that’s not what’s most important to him and his conscience.
So, yes, I concur with most of the commentators, he goes home alone, or with someone more suitable, or to someone more suitable, but not for the reasons so far given.
She’s of age; he’s not.
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LikeDislikeTell her “No” and go home…ALONE.
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LikeDislikeThis dude… his name starts with Robert and ends with Kelly and happened to have two strikes on him or something?
Anyway, I’ll just make up an excuse and get a phone number. I’ll be more interested in the long-term if my gut is telling me something else.
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LikeDislikeHe should point in the air in the opposite direction of his can and scream, “LOOOOOOOK!!!”
When she turns in shock, he should dash to his car while fishing his keys out of his pocket. Once on the main street, he should burn rubber in the opposite direction of where he lives and bend a couple of corners before driving home.
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LikeDislikeHe’s probably drunk and will do all of that.
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LikeDislikeFollow his gut.
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LikeDislikeWell I wouldn’t take her home(seeing how I’m ‘A very attractive, single man’), but if we went to Village Inn we could talk more.
I would be interested in pursuing a relationship becasue she was responsible.
Coffee, tea, or smoothie is a wonderful non-pressure situation.
How old is the guy, btw?
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LikeDislikeWe don’t know how old the guy is in this question.
I am concerned about the girl being so aggressive. Realistically if she avoided liquor she has behaved responsibly.
If this 22-year-old were my relative, I would hope a concerned adult would ask her for her phone number and call to make sure she gets home safely.
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LikeDislikeIf his gut is screaming bad news, he should listen to it and tell homegirl “no”. If she IS underage, the law allows that “ignorance is no excuse”… Even if he DID do all the right things to determine her age, if things go bad, it will bd with him for the rest of his life. Just go home, dude…ALONE.
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LikeDislikeI think I would be more concerned about her being so “Easy” versus underage. But to answer your question, he should listen to his Gut instinct. 15 minutes of Pleasure isn’t worth 15yrs behind bars for Statutory Rape.
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LikeDislikeIf his gut tells him something is wrong and he can’t shake it, better to err on the side of caution. I’m sure he’d much rather miss out on someone who really was of legal age than find out he’s going to jail because she was a minor. He’d kick himself a million times for not trusting his instincts.
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LikeDislikeGo to bed!
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