My Question of the Day for 16 June 2010 – UPDATED
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My Question of the Day: The dynamics of dating have changed so much that there doesn’t seem to be a “norm” anymore. With that in mind, think about this: a woman invites a man on date. Who should be responsible for the finances during the outing?
My 2 Cents: There’s no question about it. The person doing the inviting should expect to pay. If the man feels compelled to pay, then I wouldn’t protest too much. I would, however, expect that the finances are on me, since I did the inviting.
I asked this question because I invited a guy to lunch who helped me with a difficult project, and I added, “I’ll even pay.”
He then said, “Oh, I couldn’t let you pay.”
I asked him, “Why not?”
He said, “I’m a traditional guy. I couldn’t allow a woman to pay my way.”
I thought that was an interesting response. Hence, the question. 
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everyone pretty much answered for me. i would be prepared to pay for the date if i asked a man out on a date. however, if he offers to pay, i would let him. most men i know feel a bit awkward by agreeing to my paying even if i asked them out. even though i always come prepared (and not just to cover the date but cover MYSELF – thanks to certain men i’ve dated), i am traditional in that i EXPECT a man to pick up the tab without question. it has nothing to do with who asked first, it’s about whether or not the man i chose can take care of me – planning, arranging, and yes paying for it. what happened to good old-fashioned courting?
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LikeDislikeIf the woman asks the man out on a date then she should be prepared to pay for the bill. However, she should also keep in mind that some men are more traditional and take pride in being a “gentleman.” If that man insists on paying, there is no harm in allowing him to do so.
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LikeDislikeHello, Lori. Thanks for your input and welcome to the My Question of the Day blog. I appreciate you registering, too.
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LikeDislikeIf you ask, then it is only polite to pay. I do believe that eventually going dutch is appropriate
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LikeDislikeI think whoever does the asking should do the paying.
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LikeDislikeWhomever initiates the date first whether its a male or female should pay.. That’s my rule of thumb.
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LikeDislikeI am very Old school; I feel a True Gentleman will pick up the bill EVERY Time. If a woman asks a man out, i still feel he should indeed pick up the tab.
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LikeDislikeThe askee is the payee.
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LikeDislikeThey should just split it 50-50
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LikeDislikeShe should pay. No questions about it. You can’t ask someone out, then expect them to foot your bill. You invited them!
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LikeDislikeThe man should offer to help pay…or at least make sure before-hand if she’s gonna be straight with footing the bill alone.
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LikeDislikeThe person who does the inviting is responsible for paying.
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LikeDislikeI think that if a woman invites the man, she should be “prepared” to be responsible for the evening’s finances. If the guy turns arounds and offers to pay, she should be “prepared” to let him, but not upset if he waits for her to pay.
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LikeDislikeThe person that invites is responsible for payment. Now, as a gentleman he ought to offer to pay. Ultimately, however, she should be prepared to pay.
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LikeDislikeShe invited him and should be prepared to pay. However, there are gentlemen out there who would offer to pay the tab. Nonetheless she should be prepared to pay just in case.
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