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My Question of the Day: When the trust has gone out of a relationship, it’s very difficult to get it back. Imagine you’ve gone to bed before your spouse/significant other, and you wake up in the middle of the night to find that his/her side of the bed hasn’t been disturbed. You get up, walk into the hallway outside your bedroom and see a bright light coming from the family room. As you walk toward the light, you see your mate sitting with his/her back to you, huddled over his/her laptop and typing away. When you get close enough to see what’s on the computer screen, you see that your mate is in an x-rated chat room on one half of the screen and there’s a pornographic video showing on the other half of the screen. How do you feel about this, and/or what do you do?

My 2 Cents: I sometimes forget that when I ask these questions I have to answer them myself. :)

I’m still trying to decide how I would handle this.

I want to believe that I would turn around and go back to bed since I’ve ascertained that my mate is not injured or in danger. If he is so engrossed in what he’s doing that he doesn’t hear me coming up from behind, then that is not the time to address the issue. It’s going to be way too emotional for both of us.

The next morning, I would like to think I’d say something like, “I woke up and you weren’t in the bed. What was up?” Hopefully, he’d be open and honest about what he was doing the night before. Hopefully, we have the kind of love and respect in our relationship that he knows that honesty is more important to me than anything.

Whether he’s honest or whether he’s secretive, I’m still trying to decide where to go from there. Hm. I’m thinking, I’m thinking.

We don’t have to have all the answers right this moment, but it’s good to be able to think about stuff like this, so we can be better prepared if/when it happens.

Sometimes the answer is, “I don’t know,” and that’s OK, but at least you have time to figure it out.

I’m not just saying that as a cope-out, y’all. I’m just hoping that you all understand that thinking about what you’d do/how you’d feel can be as important as knowing exactly what you’d do/how you’d feel.

Being prepared starts with a plan. Plans start with a thought process. I’m just saying.

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Take a few moments to check out the tweets from Twitter on this subject:

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Joshua Gibson JoshDamage lol I’d be upset but I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it however I certainly express my unhappiness

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