My Question of the Day for 31 March 2010 – UPDATED
My Question of the Day: Many people can appreciate a good joke. Imagine you have a close relative or good friend, whom you really enjoying being around most of the time. One of the things that bothers you about your close relative/good friend is that he/she thinks it’s okay to tell sexist/racist jokes as long as no one from that particular gender/ethnicity is around. These kinds of jokes make you uncomfortable, but in the past you’ve feigned amusement so as not to hurt your close relative’s/good friend’s feelings. As of late, the jokes are becoming more and more mean-spirited and seem to be getting more frequent. What do you do?
My 2 Cents: This is not a situation in which I would find myself. I don’t like sexist/racist jokes, so there’s no pretending for me. I’d have already dealt with this issue the first time my close relative or good friend told one of these kinds of jokes.
Silence means consent, and I’m not going to remain silent hoping my relative/friend stops the nonsense. My personality compels me to make it clear that I’m not interested in hearing such jokes, as I don’t find them humorous.
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I politely inform them that those jokes make me uncomfortable and are not appropriate nor are they funny. I don’t care if they get embarrased.
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LikeDislikeI’d let them know that I don’t appreciate the jokes and that I’d only been trying to be polite before. Hopefully that would be enough for them to respect my wishes. If not, we’ll have to start spending less time together until the get the message.
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LikeDislikeI’d just let them know that that’s enough. The jokes are not funny and they need to explore other topics because I don’t want to hear it anymore. I’ll also make sure they know I tried, but the jokes still sucked and were in bad taste.
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LikeDislikeOMG, that is my uncle to a tee. I finally just broke down & asked him not to send me stuff like that. He wasn’t upset. He teased me a bit & called me his ‘goody two shoes niece’, but he stopped sending me that trash. So, I say if someone offends thee, tell them.
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LikeDislikeI start being honest. And tell them I let your wack jokes slide because they were infrequent at first , although I didnt agree with them. But now you are being beyond ignorant, and just being mean. And tell them to stop it, if that doesnt work I just dont associate with them. I have little to no tolerance for nonsense & negativity. Ive been in this situation before.
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