My Question of the Day for 24 March 2010 – UPDATED
My Question of the Day: Dealing with health issues isn’t easy for the person who is unwell or the people who love him/her. Imagine that a close relative/friend has been chronically ill for many, many months, but he/she didn’t tell anyone or ask for anyone’s help or support. One day, at what seems out of the blue, you’re close relative/friend is hospitalized and not expected to leave with his/her life. How does finding out that he/she has struggled with his/her situation all alone all this time make you feel and/or what do you say/do at this point?
My 2 Cents: It’s amazing how many of us would feel sorry for ourselves in a situation like this. Let me explain.
Some of us would think, “I can’t believe he/she didn’t trust me enough to share this information with me. How could he/she do this to me?”
Sigh.
I hope this would not be my thoughts. All I can do is be there for my loved one now, and I’m not going to waste more time trying to figure out why he/she didn’t tell me. I want to believe I’ll say, “How can I help you now?” I want to believe I would make the most of the time that’s left.
Anything else would just be counterproductive.
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JoshDamage I’d feel a myriad of emotions. But mainly I’d feel sad this person felt they had to go thru such a crisis alone.
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I would probably be pissed…on the inside. If it's already this far gone, no point in arguing with them about it. I would just try to be there for them until the end.
I'd be pissed because stuff like this could usually have been prevented, but people choose to keep it on the hush for some reason. The next thing you know, something curable becomes your death sentence.
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LikeDislikeIt would kill me to know that they went through it alone and didn't let anyone be there for them. However, if they're about to die, there's no point in wasting time on that issue. I'd just be there for them then in any way that I could. But I think it would still bother me long after they were gone…
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LikeDislikeI can understand – some people would rather suffer in silence. But I would let him/her know that I'm there for them during their last days. I'd sit by their bedside and keep them company.
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LikeDislikeLosing a loved one is always hard. I expect that I will be in tears. I still want to cry when I see the manager die in the five heartbeats lol
I hope that we can reminisce, remind each other we love each other, and my friend will leave peacefully. I would try to pass as much positive energy as possible before he or she goes. All without judgement, and shoulda, coulda, wouldas.
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LikeDislikeIt's not about how I feel about it at that time. Only that person would matter. I'd be sure to let them know I love them. Focus strictly on them. They have their reasons for going it alone and it wouldn't do either of us any good to get into it. I wouldn't feel like a lousy friend or relative. I would respect their choice to deal with it how they did.
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LikeDislikeI'd feel like a lousy friend but wouldn't bother him/her about it especially at this time. I'd make sure to be by their side and help them as much as possible in their time of need from that point forward
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