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The Harder Question for 12 March 2010
The Harder Question: Why is telling people, “No,” such a challenging ordeal?
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I believe telling people no requires a certain confidence and certainty all people dont have. No also includes not fearing the outcome. If you are self confident, and sure of yourself no is an easy thing to say. If you are not, sure of yourself thats when No becomes an issue. I always say do whats best for you. The sting of no doesnt last forever.
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LikeDislikeBecause to say “no” is often counter-intuitive, where one's intuition could be predicated upon the inculcation of one's upbringing, acculturation, and disposition.
Further, it may follow from a lapse in mindfulness about one's limitations and own needs and goals.
Finally, it is often the case a polite, yet immediate, clear, and firm “no” is actually kinder than saying “yes” when that intention cannot be fulfilled.
This is my humble opinion, garnered from considerable failures.
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