The Harder Question for 27 January 2010
The Harder Question: Your spouse/significant other sits you down to tell you something that is obviously difficult for him/her to share. You can see that by the look on his/her face. After a long silence, your spouse/significant other confesses to having an affair/cheating with a person who is the same gender as s/he or if you’re in a same-gender relationship, your spouse/significant other confesses to having an affair/cheating with a person who is the opposite gender as s/he. What do you do?
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Hm. Can you say hitman? Haha. This is not good.
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LikeDislikeI would get rid of him IMMEDIATELY!!!
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LikeDislikeI would Tell him that he must IMMEDIATELY pack his Bags & leave the Home.I would file for Divorce & then I would then seek spiritual guidance in dealing with such a difficult situation.
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LikeDislikeOkay, I can see that I am going to be in the minority but if they are willing to work it out, I would try to work it out. If they decide they love this other person then I would hate them and send them on their way. But if the affair is over and they are willing to go to couples therapy I would do that. It wouldn’t be easy but I would give it a try before I call it quits. But only if the other person is willing.
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LikeDislikeYou’re saying my SO would say that he had an affair with another guy?? Well, if we’re not married, that’s the end of that relationship. IDC how hard it was for him to admit, and though I would definitely appreciate him for admitting it, but I just wouldn’t be able to be around him in a sexual manner ever again knowing that he’d been with another man. I couldn’t do it and we’d have to split.
If we WERE married and he’d admitted something like that…the break-up would only take 60-90 days longer. (That’s how long you have to wait before a divorce becomes final.)
I probably would definitely be mad for a while that he cheated AT ALL but there’d be no longer a time period for forgiveness as if he’d told me he cheated with another woman. But it would take a little while for forgiveness to be had.
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LikeDislikeCheating with any gender is a deal breaker for me. I send him packing.
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LikeDislikeI would be heartbroken. The marriage would be over. I would go and get tested for HIV and pray for both of our families. Life goes on and you have to accept what God allows and know that it will be alright. I would also get therapy.
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LikeDislikeWell, that’s one I can’t begin to compete with. It’s like having a spouse still in love with someone who is deceased – you can’t compete when you’re out of your league. I wish them well, tell them they need to have their things out within 3 days, and file for divorce. But then, I couldn’t compete with “another woman” either. With issues of trust being breached let alone the disease factor it’s in my best interests to protect myself and put as much distance between me and that cheating spouse. How do you compete with a trust issue anyway? In my opinion I’d be out of my league. Sorry, but cheating is a closed door for me – I’m no Hillary or Elizabeth Edwards
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LikeDislikeYeah, that’s divorce. Doesn’t matter if they cheated with same sex, opposite sex, or the family dog.
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LikeDislikeOh, that’s an easy one. D I V O R C E.
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