My Question of the Day for 26 January 2010
My Question of the Day: A close friend has been struggling with his/her marriage for the majority of the time s/he has been married. You’ve been there to hear about it all; the many bad times and the few good times. Your friend has decided s/he must make a change. S/he asks you point-blank what s/he should do. What do you say?
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I think she should reassess the relationship, why did they get together?
What are the issues that cause contention?
They should probably seek counseling, particularly if there are children involved.
If they do separate, they should focus on being kind during this time and fair about separation issues.
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LikeDislikeI simply tell her to Pray & ask for GOD’S Wisdom & Guidance.
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LikeDislikeI would tell them that is a decision they need to make on their own. It is often the friends who suggest things one way or the other who get burned. I would keep my opinion to myself.
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LikeDislikeI would tell her that depends on the outcome she desires. And even with that, things will happen as they do. People don’t change unless it’s too painful not to once they’re adults. I’d as her also what does her heart say she should do? We all seem to have those “wise decisions” within us all. It just takes some time to clear a path to see it. And since I’m not her, and she’s not me what I think might be completely wrong. I’d suggest she already knows what is best for her to do, and that I’m here for her whatever that choice is.
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LikeDislikeI tell her to do whatever she feels is right for her. I can’t make a decision for her and whatever suggestion I make she’ll just end up deciding that I’m trying to run her life…She’s the one in the marriage, I can’t tell her what to do regardless…I wouldn’t even try. Staying neutral in a situation like that seems best to me.
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LikeDislikeIf she’s asking me what change she should make, I’d put the choices available to her back on her. What does she think she should do? What are all the considerations? Are there young kids? Are they just recycling the same fight over and over? Have they tried therapy? Can she walk away from it knowing she has done everything she could to save it?
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