The Question: One of your close friends is a total flake (lacks follow-through), and it really annoys you. What do you do?
My 2 Cents: If I have a close friend who just recently became a total flake, then I would have to delve a little deeper into why s/he has changed.
I say this because not too many years ago, I went through some terrible depression, and I was that flaky friend for a period of time. Those who know me well knew that wasn’t my style, and they were very concerned about me. Those who didn’t know me well at all assumed that “lack of follow-through” was just my M.O., and those acquaintances died off.
If I have a close friend who is a total flake (lacks follow-through), and s/he has always been that way ever since I’ve known him/her, I’d–and some of you said–make it a point NOT to depend on him/her in times of need. No one’s perfect, I know, but I’m not going to keep setting myself up to be upset when my flaky friend doesn’t come through for me.
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Take a few moments to check out the tweets from Twitter on this subject:
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Mitch_M I don’t hang arond them that much; they become fringe friends.
tclarkusa No biggie. Just be careful of what you ask of that friend knowing they could leave you in a tight spot.
Reads4Pleasure cut her loose. I’ve had a friend like that. It’s too stressful & disappointing.
confab35 Always follow through. Most behavior that annoys us reminds us of our own shortcomings. Also, judging sets us up for judgement!
ddiamond61 have a heart to heart and tell them citing examples, caveat it with love and care as you desire them to be better! But ask 1st…meaning ask if they are open to you sharing a candid observation in love knowing they may or may not agree
acmeek Stop fooling with them when it comes to making plans….But then what else is there?….So, just stop fooling with them.
ibster I have this problem. Anticipate flakiness and work around it. Make sure they know they can’t be a flake around you.
PROTECTED TWEETERi dont have patience for ppl like that.. id dump em.
treschic67 GREAT question of the Day but I can’t answer it..why u ask? because I’m the ULTIMATE flaky friend.I’m always BUSY..LOL
blackfistrising either pray for them or pity them. Hug or distance yourself.
LadyJay91 4 my close friend that’s the flack I would have to love him/her from a distance & not take whatever they say too seriously.
MissMeandI remember not to make plans with her and just roll with it (My best friend is like that…LOL)
dryskywater 1st i’d check myself (did some unknown flaky behavior on my part attract this person?) then i’d limit contact, or end it.
PROTECTED TWEETER if close friend then it doesnt bother me! aquaintenance..i would not hang w/them.
Pettra88 Joke about it
DesignsByOnye Get. Rid. Of. Her. Flaky ppl are not 2 b relied upon or trusted. I will ditch a flaky friend faster than an ugly pair of shoes.
Mo_Rease I wouldn’t depend on that friend for much.
md20737 I have a friend just like. I just dont depend , or expect anything of her. But I still love her.
NightShade10 let them know when they promise or say they’re going to do something “yeh right” then when “deer in headlights look” explain
xsashagirl You keep that friend compartmentalized and keep it moving.
sunshine625 ex-friend…no more drama!
chela816 Ugh, I have one now! I get annoyed but I love her. I just try to make sure I don’t have to depend on her for anything big
rishaholmes haha, great question! i have several friends like that, “grin and bear it” lol
JoshDamage politely address the situation and let my friend know it’s not acceptable
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