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My Question of the Day for 13 January 2010
My Question of the Day: You see your best friend’s spouse hugged up and passionately kissing someone else. What do you do?
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Been through this one before. Saw my best friend’s wife visiting a single man who lived in the same apartment complex as I. I didn’t want to think the worst until I saw them outside against his car engaging in some really heavy petting.
Days later she disappeared and was gone for several days and he was going crazy looking for her. However, I noticed that she was living with the single guy full time. I didn’t want to tell him, but he was going crazy so I finally told him.
To make a long story short, when she finally came home and they got back together, she used the Jedi mind trick and blamed the whole thing on me and my meddling. From now on out, I will not inform a friend unless I absolutely have to because when the truth finally comes out, and it will, I don’t want to be in the middle of it.
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LikeDislikeI had my best friends husband “come on to me” in the kitchen once at a dinner party while his wife sat in the living room conversing with my husband. My reaction was swift, and rather threatening…but I told him in so many words what might happen to him if he ever even thought of grabbing me again, and the same applied should I even have a hint of him doing this to someone else. He was quite shocked I was so assertive and always treated his wife well in my presence. His wife was oblivious to his character, loved him unconditionally – even if I had talked to her she was not ready to hear the message. I prayed for her and her husband and for myself. The man was a Pastor. They did divorce…this leopard was not willing to change his spots, unfortunately. So the answer is: Depends on the person who’s being wronged. If they are ready to receive the message – you’ll know because she’s/he’s your best friend and they will have some suspicions or have told you. If they’re in “LaLa Love Land” then best to pray about it and leave it in God’s hands. You need to be there for your friend when it all falls apart. I was and don’t regret it.
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LikeDislikeI would immediately confront them. I did not say FLAME them, but confront and interrupt them. It could be that this was just the “beginning” and by confronting them there and then I might (1) Scare them straight (so to speak), and (2) Prevent the innocent spouses from being exposed to the STDs that are rampant in our society (no, condoms are NOT effective against them all!). As a minister I would seek to counsel them, then and ther, urging them to repair whatever is wrong in their marriages, or to respect marriage if one is single. If they were not remorseful, I would prayerfully consider informing the spouse(s), if for no reason than to protect their safety.
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LikeDislikeYears ago, I witnessed a good friend’s (A) wife sharing a passionate kiss with another married friend (B). I decided not to talk to friend A about his wife’s behavior, but he eventually found out about it. However, I did confront friend B about it and he seemed very remorseful. Friend A and his wife wound up getting divorced, with her getting remarried soon afterward. Friend B and his wife worked things out, he found religion, went to a seminary and became the pastor of a church. They all remained friends. Life is too short to carry grudges.
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