The Question: Your closest friend begins to date someone of whom you don’t approve. What do you do?
My 2 Cents: When it’s my closest friend, it is my business. If s/he is dating someone of whom I don’t approve, I make mention of this to my friend. However, understanding that s/he must live his/her own life and make his/her own decisions, that’s all I do. I don’t hound, harass, disparage, demean, degrade, denigrate, etc. his/her choice. I simply make my reservations known, and then I continue to support and love my closest friend.
If I’m wrong about his/her new partner, time will tell, and I’ll gladly admit I was wrong. If I was right about his/her new partner, I’ll resist the urge to say “I told you so” and simply be the kind of friend my closest friend will need to help him/her through the adjustment period.
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Take a few moments to check out the tweets from Twitter on this subject:
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QueenAoleon keep my opinion to myself unless explicitly asked. i trust they r smart enough to do whats in their best interest
EpicView_SP Unless the person my friend is dating is a psychopath, I don’t say anything – not my business.
bythesea_1 Grin and bare it. But point out when the red flags should be going off and be there as a friend. With eyes wide open.
PROTECTED TWEETER I would let her know that this persons characteristics outshine his advertisement! she needs 2 be cautious
PROTECTED TWEETER Unless they ask for my advice, I say mothing. I do nothing.
sutherngeorgian there is nothing you can do. you tell him/her then you continue be their friend & see what happens. just hope for the best
EnigmaRDT Just stand back and give ur support in whatever necessary.
RippDemUp Be a friend and let her know how you feel and why.
Pettra88 Tell em & lose em
Speaklife2 Love her through it.
SiriusFit I’ve always been VERY honest with my friends. I’ll tell them straight up “I disapprove!” They know what kind of friend I am!
MissMeandI I tell her of my concerns, but generally stay out of her business… She’s dating him, not me…
DiamondEmory You pray them through it. That’s what @Amyhite did for me. She prayed me through it, and it took years! Now that’s friendship.
Divagwendolyn I would nothing. My mother always said ‘I can’t pick your shade tree.” It’s my friend’s decision & life. I can’t judge.
Sonny_Rich wht can u really do
Teaguem2005 You mind your business if you don’t approve of who someone is dating unless they specifically ask your opinion.
coachrobynn most important support your friend.This is her journey and her lessons to learn.Our biggest gift to our friends is just being.
BrighterthanB4 Support them anyway and either hope you were wrong about them, or that the truth comes out
blacknthick suck it up pretty much you can voice your opinion once that’s about it
ClassyDreamer @PROTECTED TWEETERsometimes U cnt always put yr finger on it, I wnt more than women’s intuition…that’s when pay close attention
rahsheen I would do absolutely nothing. It’s my best friend, not my child. I would probably take every opp to say I Told You So, though
BLKMGK Let her know that I don’t really like the guy but drop it after that. Its her decision – I will remain her friend.
TankaBar_JasonD quit hanging out with them and when they want to know why tell them.
TheKiaXperience You tell em how u feel but give them space to learn the problem. My bestie @unvme03 and I are strong believers n that!
walkerdl Offer my advice & let my friend be. I would also hope for the best
PROTECTED TWEETER @ClassyDreamertrue but you’ve figured that already if you’ve figured out that you don’t like him
ClassyDreamer think Scott Peterson
NightShade10 I find out more about them to see what the attraction is,remain hopeful,pray a lot,and talk to my friend in non threatening way
treschic67 I would keep my opinions to myself. I tend to NOT interfere in Other Folks Relationships.
ClassyDreamer @PROTECTED TWEETER but then you’re allowing a new man to isolate your friend. If he’s abusive/crazy I want to be there to notice
JoshDamage I express my opinion and hope my friend is happy. In the end that’s what matters.
ClassyDreamer figure out WHY they irk me but still try to see why my friends likes him/her and be ready for the fallout
tclarkusa Voicing your opinions may cause rift in friendship so tread lightly. Trust me, it happened 2 me but we worked thru it.
md20737 I just shut up about it, and let adults be adults. Aka learn the hard way.
PROTECTED TWEETER tell her how I feel& why and keep my distance from him when poss
chela816 It’s none of my business who my friends date. I just won’t spend time w/the two of them together.
atane It’s their life. They can date who they want.
iJustJason you don’t do or say anything. Not your business or place.
PROTECTED TWEETER ha! im goin through this now! let her kno how u feel & allow her to make her own decisions.
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