My Question of the Day for 14 December 2009 With A Twist
My Question of the Day: As a gift, a family friend/relative gives your child a real-looking, toy gun. What do you do?
My Question of the Day With A Twist: As a gift, a family friend/relative gives your male child a cute, cuddly boy doll OR gives your female child a football and football helmet. What do you do?
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I guess the issue is that the type of toy could possibly have an effect on the sexual/gender identity of my child or something? I don’t believe that at all. Again, as I always say when it comes to issues of children being affected by outside forces, it mostly comes down to how you raise your child.
Also, agree with Gloria. I don’t think toys will make your child gay. That just sounds silly. They are just toys.
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LikeDislikeI don’t think a toy determines sexual preference, at least from what I know and have experienced. I played softball, basketball, baseball, hockey – with boys (tom boy but I’m also a girly girl) and got many toys as a girl that were not for the “tradional girl.” I’m married to the best husband and have 3 beautiful children! My 2 girls and my 1 son have had dolls to play with, as well as footballs, baseballs, soccer, you name it – (they are all heterosexual with no latent homosexual tendencies), and in fact my son will be a good father someday he actually knows how to hold a baby, cook, and do his own laundry! This question suggests that somehow a simple play toy or activity will establish or encourage out of the main stream behavior. Homophobia makes me angry, you can’t catch being gay or lesbian, nor can you be groomed for it. Anyway, I’m off my podium… (Sorry if I’ve offended anyone)
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LikeDislikeI get that some people are going to have serious issues here, so here’s my take.
Give my kid anything you choose. If he likes the boy doll and wants to play with it, that’s ok with me. If the girl enjoys the football equipment, all the better. For my part, I choose to give my child a choice. If they like what they received and play with it, it doesn’t turn them “gay”. They will use their instincts and decide what they like and don’t like. I think it’s patently wrong to stereotype a child by male or female and avoid exposing them to anything that would be considered different. Ultimately the child will make their own choice of how they choose to life their lives and lifestyle – and I want to be the one who supports them in that choice rather than rejects them for making what I believe is a wrong choice.
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LikeDislikeI ask the person giving the gift didnt you know I had a son, and I say thank you. But I wouldnt let my son play with a doll baby.
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LikeDislikeOkay We gonna have a fight if somebody gives my male child a [bleep] doll for Christmas! I don’t care if that boy is showing EVERY homosexual tendency known to man! DO NOT even think abt giving my son (if I had one) a freaking doll for ANYTHING! Only lil “dolls” he’s accepting are those lil wrestling ones and they are abt 3inches tall! That’s some bull-mess!
On the other hand if they wanna give my daughter a football and helmet, and I know she’s into that, that’s cool…There is NO indication of anything there… We keep telling our kids that women can play sports too, if she wants to that’s cool. However, on the flip side of that, if someone gives my daughter such a gift and knows she’s NOT into that, then back to us having a problem. I will NOT have folks messing with my kids! That’s just mean and hateful and there’s no sense in it, especially at Christmastime
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