The Question: Your fiancé has an ex’s name tattooed on his/her body. You love your fiancé but abhor the tattoo. What do you do?
My 2 Cents: I dated a guy very, very, very briefly who had his recent ex’s first name tattooed from the bend in his elbow to the wrist of his arm. When I first saw it, I wasn’t moved. I didn’t care. Each time I saw it after that, I would think to myself, “It reminds me that I’ve made bad choices in the past, too.”
I didn’t break up with him because of the tattoo. I broke up with him because he had children for whom he wouldn’t provide, and I refuse to be with a man who doesn’t take care of his responsibilities to his children; that’s point blank and period.
I developed the habit many years ago, right when tattoos were becoming popular, to ask the men I dated if they have tattoos. The guy I mention above is the only one who had someone’s name tattooed on his body, but I want to know what kind of symbols, names and signs a potential mate might have on his body. The kinds of tattoos a person chooses says something about who s/he perceives him/herself to be.
I wouldn’t refuse to date and/or marry a man because he has another woman’s name tattooed on his body, but I would want to know the story behind it and I’d need to be confident that relationship is over and done with before we could even start dating exclusively.
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Take a few moments to check out the tweets from Twitter on this subject:
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greg249 If the love is real, a tattoo will not get in the way. Blessings!
weblady1 Show both of them the door.
overanalytical I don’t think we would be engaged if that tat were there.
rishaholmes anser to questiion…Laser treatment for a xmas present!
walkerdl If the fianceé is considerate enough, she’s have it removed or covered w/another tattoo. Otherwise, I’d ask for that
atane As long as that person is out of their life, I can learn to live with it. They can get a cover up tattoo over it also.
ginakay Tell self: Don’t be jealous of the past, everyone has one! 
ThelmaBaker he wld have to get rid of it for sure 
PROTECTED TWEETER ask him to get it covered. nothing more u can do.
SGTMcClain it was there before I came… if it bothers me that much… I’ll leave, they already made their choice
rahsheen She’d have to cover it up or get it removed. Can’t be reading some dude’s name while I’m…well…nevermind.
acmeek Oooooh Deeeep one. DUMP HIM! Hahahahah j/k Tattoo removal is an option. Expensive….but an option none the less.
jreneker Change your name to match the tattoo. Problem solved. Or learn to not let it bother you.
sistagp would wonder how connected fiance still is to EX. must have been strong relationship to get a tattoo. Else fiance has ISSUES
bprickett I’m assuming going all “silence-of-the-lamb” on them is not an option? <grin>
chela816 I would hope he’d get it removed if he knows I hate it, but I don’t tell grown people what to do…
BLKMGK Insist that he has the tattoo removed
tclarkusa Alter it. I’d suggest we cover it up w/ a tat we chose 2gether than have him left w/ a scar from hvg it removed w/ chemicals.
DerekIsNormal People make mistakes in the past. I know Tattoos are permanent. It wouldn’t bother me much.
katjrobertson Get him to have it covered up I suppose. It wouldn’t really matter to me I don’t believe… It’s just a name. LOL
JoshDamage not get involved with someone who has an ex’s name tatted on them.
NightShade10 I guess if it bothered me that much I would have probably let them know well before we got engaged to be married-rather 11th hr
MusingMom nothing-who cares?That is such a superficial way of expressing love that a person w/such a tattoo wld not be attractive to me
LadyJay91 A name tat was something they decided BEFORE the current relationship! Your with them now so it doesn’t matter.
Ms_LaTisha Ask him to remove or cover the tattoo. It shouldn’t be that big of a deal to have that done, if it is, we have a problem!
KCPL I don’t think I’d do anything. She’s marrying me. Some tattoos are mistakes, like some relationships. She can keep the reminder
PRIMALDATA not a [bleep], because its a tat you got them the other person doesn’t quit being petty
md20737 You ask your fiance when they are going to get that tat covered up?
MuataAdebamgbe ask them to get a cover up. Very simple to solve.
aileen2u2 Not much to do. Altho, I wouldn’t date someone stupid enough to ever get a lover’s name in a tattoo. JK Always a mistake.
PROTECTED TWEETER The ex will have to have it removed… pbp
MissMeandI answer I’d just ignore it. Unless he’s gonna have it removed it’s there. Don’t stress abt it.
Pettra88 Insist that it is covered.
Tazzee ask him to get it removed. That would have happened before I said “yes”
treschic67 I wouldn’t do anything. He got the Tatoo in the past. Makes no sense2remove it BCause in ur mind,you’l know it Used 2B There.
kookyklavicla I would just talk the situation over with my fiance, I’m sure I would find relief after discussing it.
blogger_au difficult question mam… I will not be ok with the tattoo for sure as it will always remind me the past of his life ..
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