My Question of the Day for 10 December 2009 With A Twist
My Question of the Day: Your fiancé has an ex’s name tattooed on his/her body. You love your fiancé but abhor the tattoo. What do you do?
My Question of the Day With A Twist: Your fiancé has an ex’s name tattooed on his/her body. This happens to be your name, also, but you know it was there before s/he met you. What do you do?
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I don’t think we’d be engaged to be married had this not been thoroughly discussed prior to me saying “yes.” The discussion would have been more questions on my part than demands. I won’t tell anyone what to do, but what they do…who they are would determine if I would say yes and be engaged to them. For me, I would want to be with someone who not only cared about themselves but was empathetic to others – especially the “love of their life.” Tatoo of ex’s name is just tacky, icky, and creepy if you are marrying someone else – IMO.
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LikeDislikeI talk a lot of junk but realistically. I cant tell someone what to do with thier body. I would voice my feelings and let my fiance take it from there. I trust he would do the right thing for us.
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LikeDislikeThe tatoo can Stay either Scenario. My HUSBAND has 38 tatoos & 5 of them are of my name. He had a GF with the same name as me & he got 2 of those Tatoos while they were Dating. Doesn’t matter to me, we’ve been 2gether 11 yrs.
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LikeDislikeStill don’t stress it…The (wo)man is with you and not the ex…Unless your mate is WILLING to get rid of the tat (and if it’s bothering you that much covering it ain’t gonna work) then the tat is there. If it’s your name, roll with that. It don’t matter WHEN s/he got branded, just now s/he’s branded with YOUR name. If you let the jealously get up in your relationship like that, your fiance is gonna end up being your ex-fiance (who’s probably now gonna go around dating chicks with name like yours who won’t care that you were the ex…cuz they’re the current. Fight the battles that are worth fighting, let the others go…It seems to work better like that
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LikeDislikeI would leave it there. For me to expect someone not to have had a close relationship with their ex is unrealistic. As long as their relationship is truly over, I would take a picture with my lady making sure her tattoo is showing, which would, in effect, lay my claim it. . . after all, it’s my name also correct? HOWEVER, without the twist:: If the tat is a different name than mine, and it makes me uncomfortable, then I would politely ask her to have it covered with something else. If her answer is no, then I would question if her feelings for said ex were actually current. This would then be the issue, not the tat.
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LikeDislikeI’d still want him to get it removed because of the intent. Plus, I don’t like tattoos, so I’d take any opportunity to request removal. My fiancé wants to get my name tattooed on his arm but I told him I wouldn’t like it. We’ll see what happens
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