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My Question of the Day for 07 December 2009 With A Twist
My Question of the Day: Who’s better at parenting: males or females?
My Question of the Day With A Twist: When you were growing up, if you had to pick which parent (or any other responsible adult you know) you wanted to live with, and the choice was totally yours, who would you have picked?
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Since the question is asked from a perspective of a child then I’d have to pick my dad. Nevermind how appreciative everyone seems to be (deservedly so) of how one parent or the other enabled them to be the person they are today, the question’s twist rules out this aspect.
As a child I’d pick my dad. Mom was the “law giver” while my dad was the “do what your mom said” person. As a child life was about having fun, staying up late, sleeping over at friends, watching tons of TV, and such.
So, hands down, I’d go with Dad. Of course there’d be that rude awakening when I learned they worked as a team and the “laws” were the same regardless of who voiced the decree.
LOL, kids. What did we know back then, right?
– Orion
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LikeDislikeI would have picked to be raised exactly as I was. My ma (I truly believe) was bipolar, but she’d been driven to the last steps of life and back by my dad, her own circumstances growing up and whatnot. She was tough to live with, but my daddy was/IS a sorry mofo who shouldn’t have been allowed to raise a dog, let alone have kids. I don’t think men are worse at raising children. I actually think the question is sorta unfair. It totally depends on the person with the child: how responsible they are, how attentive, how loving, etc… The fact that they are either male or female has nothing to do with how good of a parenting job s/he will do.
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LikeDislikeMy parents have been divorced for 38 years and counting (smile). Without question, I choose my mother. My father and his family are loud. They were very negative towards my mother all of their lives (most of them are dead). My mother taught me to continue show respect regardless of what they said. Also, my mother had a wonderful mother and two exceptional sisters who were were her extended momma-team. I was well taken care of by 4 beautiful women. I am honestly better for it!
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LikeDislikeMy folks have been married for ~50 years & throughout my life, I did not know which parent to select because I’ve always seen them as 2. Once, I told my parents that I loved my mom for what she means to me, whereas, I love my dad for what he has done for me. So I cannot make a choice rationally. I have gotten close to my mom, so I guess I would choose her, but my dad makes me feel so happy–in a “daddy’s girl” way.
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LikeDislikeDefinitely my mother. She is the most beautiful person that I know. Her whole life was devoted to making sure we were happy. Looking back at my chilhood brings back so many joyful memories. Even today she is still there for us.
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LikeDislikeHands Down…. My Mom. She Raised me with so much Dignity & Pride, filled with a strong Spiritual Connection. I wouldn’t change a thing! She was The REAL Deal!
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LikeDislikeI was faced with that choice for about a day when I was about 10 or 11 and my parents had a bad moment. I told my father that although he was the one I got along with best and most of the time, I would have to stay with my mother because she would be the one who’d have the hardest time if they separated, especially with my little brother in tow. They didn’t, thank God. But a child never forgets.
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LikeDislikeI would have picked my mom. I was partially raised by my grandma, but I’d still go with mom hands down. No contest. She did a good job and I wouldn’t be who I am today without her.
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LikeDislikeInteresting question. I don’t think good parenting is a gender issue, but a caring one. What’s important is if a person cares enough about the child to want to be a good parent, and is mature enough to learn how.
When my parents divorced they asked us (my sister and I were teenagers) and we both chose to go with mother. Dad wasn’t and isn’t much of a people person, especially when the people are children.
Wouldn’t it be interesting if children could pick their parents?
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LikeDislikeI would have chosen my Mother. My parents divorced when I was 11, and I was sent to live with my Father and his new wife, 15 yrs his junior, very hard times for me, indeed. I always wanted to go back to my Mother, but for reasons unknown to me it never happened. Now, my Father is deceased (since 1996) and I am closer than ever to my Mother. I suppose it is never to late to rebuild important realtionships, and heal wounds from childhood…
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LikeDislikeI would have picked my grandma hands down. No competition even from my parents lol But who really likes thier parents when they are growing up.
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LikeDislikeI would have picked my mentors: Sybil and Clarence; whom I only had the pleasure of meeting at 9 years of age and spent every weekend with until I met and married my husband. They’re gone now, and I grieve them still all these years later.
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LikeDislikeMy mom.
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LikeDislikeInteresting question. Fortunately for me, I was chosen. I’m adopted
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