This page is for my Daddy, who celebrated his 63rd birthday today, 02 December 2009.

Daddy, I asked the people who follow me on Twitter to send you birthday shouts, and the following is the expression of love that came from everyone who participated:

MsWilda HAPPY BIRTHDAY to Faydra’s dad. May God bless you with good health and to live as long as you want to!10:00 PM Dec 2nd

Chanevans Happy birthday to your daddy!!! 9:28 PM Dec 2nd

girly1121 happy birthday daddy Fields!!!! Make it an awesome day!!!!! 8:34 PM Dec 2nd

ManofCivility GO party hardy Faydra’s poppa!!! 8:32 PM Dec 2nd

blujayy happy birthday, daddy! 6:39 PM Dec 2nd

drgoss happy bday papa fay lol

mommadona Happy Birthday to U, Happy Birthday to U! And many more (U have a beautiful daughter) 6:34 PM Dec 2nd

CharTheArtist Happy Birthday Faydra’s Daddy wishing u many many more 6:34 PM Dec 2nd

SockriTease Happy Birthday to her dad ——-> @faydra_deon 6:32 PM Dec 2nd

chela816 Oh, and happy birthday to Daddy! 4:43 PM Dec 2nd

alpha1736 Happy Birthday Faydra’s Daddy!! 4:42 PM Dec 2nd

mrsxavib Happy Birthday Faydra’s Daddy!! 4:42 PM Dec 2nd

TheKiaXperience “Happy Birthday to @faydra_deon ‘s Daddy!” Wooo hooooo! *throws confetti and pop Thunderbird bottle* 4:39 PM Dec 2nd

XPhile1908 HAPPY BIRTHDAY DADDY! 4:37 PM Dec 2nd

tclarkusa Happy Birthday!!! 4:36 PM Dec 2nd

akaziaj Happy Birthday and wishes for many more 2 Faydra’s dad. 4:32 PM Dec 2nd

Abimbola80 Happy Born Day to @faydra_deon ‘s Dad!!! 2:43 PM Dec 2nd

Aseelah Happy bornday to your Father…the best gift a girl could ever have! 2:42 PM Dec 2nd

DiamondEmory May you Dad have a very happy birthday & many many more. May the Lord grant him the desires of his heart and bless him richly 2:41 PM Dec 2nd

IshmaelShakur Happy Earthday @faydra_deon daddy hope U have many more God Bless! 2:40 PM Dec 2nd

sistagp Happy Birthday, Faydra’s Daddy 2:34 PM Dec 2nd

Slim_Goodie happy birthday faydra_deon’s daddy!!! 2:34 PM Dec 2nd

iamwiddy Happy BornDay Daddy Fields!!!! 2:34 PM Dec 2nd

MissMeandI Happy birthday to @faydra_deon‘s dad! 2:34 PM Dec 2nd

mayqueen79 Happy Birthday to your father. May he have many more birthdays filled with the joy of being old enough to never get grounded! 2:33 PM Dec 2nd

JoshDamage Hi Mr. Carson, heres to a happy birthday and many more…PS thanks for Ms. Faydra. 12:56 PM Dec 2nd

Tazzee Happy Birthday Faydra’s Daddy! May your year be blessed and I pray you see many more. 12:56 PM Dec 2nd

patriciarose Happy Birthday to Fayda’s dad! Have a great day, may all your birthday wishes come true. Hugs. 12:50 PM Dec 2nd

sunshine625 Happy Birthday to ur dad! Thank you for Faydra! 12:47 PM Dec 2nd

rishaholmes Happy Birthday to Faydra’s DAD! have a great one!! 12:43 PM Dec 2nd

sh3lli3b3an Happy Birthday! Enjoy your special day and live it to the fullest! 12:37 PM Dec 2nd

caregiving To Dad: Happy Birthday! Hope your day is great… 12:36 PM Dec 2nd

circa1908 Happy Birthday @faydra_deon‘s Daddy… be blessed today and each day even more 12:34 PM Dec 2nd

md20737 ♫ ♪ ♫ ♪ Happy Bday Faydra’s Daddy, Happy Bday .. ♫ ♪ ♫ ♪ ♫ ♪ 12:34 PM Dec 2nd

clewdog2 Faydra wishing ur Dad a Happy & Blessed Birthday. I’m sure he feels privileged bcuz he was blessed with you! 11:19 AM Dec 2nd

Write_Of_Fusion HAPPY BIRTHDAY MR. FIELDS! Must have been a great day to be born, b/c my son’s is today also! 10:57 AM Dec 2nd

BLKMGK Happy Birthday to your Dad! Have a great one! 10:53 AM Dec 2nd

blacknthick tell your dad I said happy bday 10:47 AM Dec 2nd

treschic67 Blessings & Happy Birthday to your Dad ! 10:44 AM Dec 2nd

LovelyLatina09 Happy Birthday Mr. Carson II!!! Hope you have a great day;> 10:44 AM Dec 2nd

roaddoggz Happy Birthday to your DAD. May you both enjoy many many more. 10:41 AM Dec 2nd

Pettra88 Happy Bday Faydra’s dad!!!! 10:41 AM Dec 2nd

theperfectRu Happy birthday! Have a blessed day and many years to come sir! 10:41 AM Dec 2nd

RahSoFly A special HAPPY BIRTHDAY shoutout to @faydra_deon ‘s daddy!! Enjoy your day to the utmost sir

blackposimage Happy Birthday to @faydra_deon Dad!!! I wickedly awesome man and father… 10:40 AM Dec 2nd

walkerdl Happy Birthday to your dad! 10:31 AM Dec 2nd

KamekaD Happy birthday yo your daddy @faydra_deon! Tell him I said thanks for helping to bring you to the world! 10:21 AM Dec 2nd

jigsawverbiage Happy Birthday, Dad! (So when he falls asleep, you sneak a peek at his driver’s license. My MIL is mum about her age too.) 10:20 AM Dec 2nd

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I got this idea from @Black_Dove, who did this for her son a few weeks ago. Thanks, Callie, for the great idea!

My Question of the Day: Is it selfish to choose NOT to be a parent if you’re physically/financially/emotionally capable?

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The Question: Teasing is harmless as long as you are only joking with the other person. Agree or disagree?

My 2 Cents: I have slender feet with long, slender toes. When I was growing up, my family used to tease me about my feet. Mainly it was my Mom and Daddy who teased me about my feet.

If I was sitting in the livingroom watching television with my feet propped up on the coffee table one of them thought it was so funny to say, “Faydra, get your hands off the coffee table. Oh, I’m sorry. Those are your feet.” They’d break out in laughter and so would the rest of the family. For years, I had a complex about my feet and wouldn’t wear sandals or any open-toed shoe. I definitely wouldn’t walk around barefooted in front of anyone.

It wasn’t until my middle 30s that I overcame this complex. It was my former husband who convinced me that there wasn’t anything funny or funny-looking about my feet. When I finally started wearing sandals, other people also complimented me on my feet.

I know my family was only joking with me, but I carried that for years and years. So much so, I’ve never been comfortable saying the word “toes.” Yes. I know. Get over it. Haha.

Teasing is harmful if the person you’re teasing is uncomfortable with what you’re saying. Like some of you said, you have no idea what people are dealing with in their private lives, so you have no idea whether your teasing is being taken personally.

Think before you speak. Once it’s out there, you can never take it back.

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Take a few moments to check out the tweets from Twitter on this subject:

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blujayy agree, as long as the other person agrees as well.

PROTECTED TWEETER I agree only if the other person KNOWS you’re joking. If you’re the only one laughing, it’s cruel.

PROTECTED TWEETER Disagree. What is funny to 1 person may be hurtful to another person.

502MS well, it depends on the person. What if your teasing gave them a complex?

465media disagree.. truth is, flirting is just like “kicking tires”

PROTECTED TWEETER depends on the person..everyone can’t take teasing and you MUST know when ENOUGH is ENOUGH.

Piddlepro as long as you don’t step on someone’s boundaries and verbalize it’s all in fun.

treschic67 Teasing really isn’t OK.Some folks go overboard & take things 2 far”if you don’t have anything nice 2 say,say nothing at all”

xsashagirl Agree, although some folks get sensitive.

TankaBar_JasonD well you can over do it. It can be hurtful if you do it wrong. some just do it too much. it is ok, but too much is bad.

estaesmivida disagree

sunshine625 Agree

walkerdl Yes. Esp. if you have a good relationship w/that person

LadyJay91 I have to disagree teasing is not always harmless & can be hurtful. One has to be very careful with it.

mayqueen79 Teasing is harmless if you know that the person can take it. If they get their feelings hurt, it is no longer harmless.

dingane1 unless a person is intending to follow through teasing is inappropriate

PROTECTED TWEETER Teasing just aint right! (I’ve been guilty though.)

Pettra88 Disagree, “Sticks and stones…” was a lie! Words hurt more and last longer.

tclarkusa I disagree. Words hurt. This holds true not only for kids, but adults as well.

nickfury01 I agree!…and they can’t too sensitive!…it helps of they can “dish it out” as well!…lol!

ObiOrion perhaps this is harsh but teasing helps identify the weak & builds resilience & strength in those who get past it on both sides

BLKMGK Agree. Teasing is a part of camaraderie, put its not for everyone.

rishaholmes I think it is best to err on the side of caution and not do it, because how does one really know how the other person feels?

NightShade10 a joke is only funny if it’s funny to both people, otherwise that “teasing” can take on a rather abusive nature and tone

Mo_Rease Some people can’t take the teasing, If a person goes too far, that’s when trouble arises.

md20737 WRONG PPL SENSITIVE

Write_Of_Fusion Good morning! Only if that other person is cool with it. Sometimes they may think u r getting 2 personal, even if it’s a joke.

MsJayye disagree; some ppl take teasing too far plus we don’t know what others are dealing w/ moment 2 moment

AbayKamau Nuetral. Teasing is relative as the brunt of the joke is determined by the “teasee’s” mood” it can begin or negate an arguement

shargrove I disagree. You never know what’s going on with someone and what hurts. Positive reinforcement goes a long way.

JoshDamage disagree. If a person is taking exception to what is being said I believe the fun is over.

DesignsByOnye Disagree. Teasing can cut to the heart and the (painful) truths are always told ‘in jest’.

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The commentary doesn’t have to end!

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