The Question: From your perspective, a very disturbing incident happens at work/school. After doing some informal inquiries among your peers, it seems you’re the only person who is actually disturbed by the incident. You can keep quiet and allow the status quo to prevail, or you can speak up and let it be known that you, if no one else, are/were disturbed by the incident. What do you do?

My 2 Cents: When something or someone offends and/or upsets you, and you say nothing, you’ve given him/her de facto permission to repeat the offense.

I’m not one to even concern myself with whether other people were offended and/or upset. If it insults my sensibilities, I’m going to make it known and right away, especially if I find it very disturbing. There are no “let’s wait and see if it happens again” moments for me when it comes to very disturbing incidents. Action is required immediately.

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PROTECTED TWEETER I would call HR and let them document the incident as well as decide the course of action.

EpicView_SP I speak up about what disturbed me.

coffeesassy I would have to speak up.

Speaklife2Depends, how disturbing? Alot more bothers me, than them. I have 2 exercise control so not 2 appear 2 self

mblackburn I have a feeling of solidarity with co-workers, I would first attempt to get a consensus, then act as nece

PROTECTED TWEETER I have & will do it again, report any disturbing act to the appropriate authorities. I’m not a team player.

Mitch_M I speak up; that’s how racism & other isms are allowed to persist.

brijh I have to speak up, otherwise I will toss & turn in my sleep. My Mom use to tell us, “U must Stand on you

TheHighRoadI have been in that situation before. I think my feelings are as valid as everyone else’s so I’d say what

md20737 If it bothers me, if it really bothers Ill prob pray about it & ask for guidance than proceed.

PROTECTED TWEETER I would say something. B/c 9x”s outa 10 just by speaking up it may sway others perceptions on the situatio

Quintessence_Tkeep it to myself–sometimes Pandora’s box is a mofo..

LadyJay91I’d have to voice my 2 cents status quo can go jump inthe lake (giggle) Seriously what brothers me might n

xsashagirlI would speak up: “It’s better to die on your feet than to live on your knees” Emiliano Zapata

Inkognegro It really depends on the nature of the offense. If I feel like a teachable moment exists, I will speak up

TankaBar_JasonD I would speak up about it and bring it to their attention till some one else feels the same way, no one likes to go it alone

tclarkusa This scenario happens more than we’d prob like 2 admit. Depending on what exactly happened & knowing me…I’d speak up.

mayqueen79 I would deal with the people involved, and then try to let it go. Sometimes rocking the boat hurts more th

aileen2u2 I’d speak up. (That’s my problem/blessing: I never know when to shut-up or “play nicey”. LOL)

Write_Of_Fusion Initially, I would question a few if they saw it as disturbing as me…otherwise I would probably keep it to myself.

sunshine625Keep quiet & think im bein anal as usual.

NightShade10 I always speak up,only because if I’m disturbed by it,it’s normally something illegal,immoral,or just gross-not pop thing to do

rishaholmesI would FOR SURE speak up. Gosh, that happens to be a lot in real life! lol! The status quo in MS are a

atane I’d let it be known if something disturbed me.

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