My Question of the Day for 20 October 2009
My Question of the Day: You’re invited to the wedding of a friend/relative. You’re not particularly close to this friend/relative, but you’re close enough to seriously consider going to the wedding. You’ve received the invitation in plenty of time to get a decent rate on a plane ticket and a hotel room. You can take a few days off from work, with pay, without it being a major or minor hassle. A few days before you decide to finalize the arrangements to go, you find out from another friend/relative that the couple are actually already married and have been for several months. The couple is only having this ceremony so they can please their mothers and to give everyone invited the opportunity to get them gifts and attend the reception. What do you do?
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In this day and age, tradition is not the rule anymore. I have attended a small wedding and been to a reception that occurred months later. I’ve been sent announcements about weddings that occurred without me. Such is life.
I would hope that all the time energy and effort I went into planning to attend would not have been for naught. I mean, I could always not actually attend the event and do something else in that town or modify my trip to “celebrate” it someplace else.
It boils down to communication. If they lack it, then it depends on what you are going to do about it. I think I would be rather flexible about it at the end of the day. I cannot afford to get my brain twisted about how someone else lives their life.
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LikeDislikeHey Faydra! First time I needed to “expound more than 140 characters.”
Interesting question! If other relatives/friends I’m close to are attending, I’d go (mini-reunion!). The marriage begins at the signing of the marriage license, which sometimes happens before the ceremony. For me, it doesn’t matter WHEN a wedding ceremony occurs. The wedding ceremony’s purpose is to celebrate the marriage with loved ones: with gifts, congratulations and well-wishes. A married couple can always use those (I draw the line at a divorcing couple, though). Do we treat a renewal of vows any less differently because the couple is already married?
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LikeDislikeI wouldn’t attend even if I didn’t find out the info, just not my thing. But I am a giver so would be my honor to bless them with a gift regardless. I would urge them to be honest with others.. and pray with them for God’s blessings over their marriage. For me no harm done, any ill motives on their part God would deal with.
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